Things we don't talk about... uncomfortable subject

OMG, Frozen shoulder! Mine reached it’s peak earlier this year. So painful and the continually decreasing mobility and weight-bearing were a real limitation. Then about a month ago I realized I was entering the “thaw” portion.

My hot flashes/night sweats have been fairly minor compared to a lot of people and have come and gone. I’ll think they’re done, but then I go through a “flash patch” again. They are mostly at night and not that hot or sweaty, but still interrupt my sleep. I used to be soooooooo damn good at sleeping! I would fall asleep within 10 mins of turning off the light and not wake again until my alarm went off of 8-9 hours later if there was no alarm. Never had to pee in the night, didn’t have to wake to roll over, slept hard enough that I rarely remembered dreams. Them I would sometimes toss and turn for an hour before falling asleep, have to get up to pee at least once most nights, turn my pillow to the cool side multiple times, fluff the heat out of the covers, etc. I started taking magnesium glycinate about 60-90 mins before bed and that has helped a lot. It makes me drowsy and able to fall asleep easily and when wake in the middle of the night, it’s less awake and easier to fall back asleep.

Ugh, I was just in a conversation the other day with multiple women who had the more-than-a-year gap and not been done. (I also had a college roommate who was born when her mom was 63, ‘cause she thought she was done needing to worry about contraceptives at a beltane festival, so not a new problem :grimacing: …)

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Apologies: longer than anticipated post about peri-meno, but sharing because I’ve learnt so much just recently that’s helped.

If we’re going peri symptoms you don’t know about until you know…

I dont have TOTMs because I’m on the older person contraceptive pill - Progesterone only. My first indicator was the hot flushes but they were intermittent.

The original more ‘obvious’ but not obvious unless you know one, was painful sex with a new boyfriend, only by chatting to a friend did I put things together and went to see the GP. But I also had a lot of bloating and indigestion issues in the run up that I couldn’t work out.

Many symptoms could be linked to a number of conditions, e.g. low iron, underactive thyroid, long covid, etc. etc.

This year, I was suffering with fatigue, anxiety, night sweats, brain fog (Literally didn’t know that’s what it was until I spoke with the Dr. again), bad diet, lack of eating (boyfriend thinks I have an unusual eating disorder type thing). I thought I was going into a major depressive cycle and didn’t know how to haul myself out of it, talk about it, or anything.

When I told boyfriend, we found many potential causes which would need tests but my friend messaged that same day to see why I hadn’t been parkrunning, I said I’d been having a lot of fatigue… Apparently a ‘classic’ perimeno symptom. Cue chat to GP and patches are now in place. (night sweats have been a lot less - 1 month in)

My friend’s sister had the frozen shoulder as well
Oh and hair is everywhere!!

Look after your selves and get checked if anything seems different to your normal

Sorry if any of that was an overshare but I didn’t know many of the symptoms except for hot flushes and night sweats

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And yes, this is such a thing.

My mum has been on HRT since her early 30s because of a hysterectomy. In the last 2 years, they didn’t have her HRT where she lived and basically went ‘cold turkey’ for quite a lot of months. So she started experiencing the symptoms, the hot / cold is awful.

Fortunately, where she recently moved to does have the HRT she was previously on. But it was kinda funny for her to be asking me about meno symptoms (For reference, I’m 51, she’s 17 years older)